The Big Feelings Toolbox gives children aged 4 to 10 the words, pictures and calm-down tools for big emotions, and gives you the exact method and scripts for the moments when nothing you say seems to work.
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Calm the body before you talk. Keep everyone safe, stay close with few words, offer one or two practised calm-down tools such as a wall push or balloon breathing, then name the feeling and solve the problem later. The Big Feelings Toolbox from Bodhih Training supplies the charts, cards and scripts for each step.
Want the full free guide first? Read How to Help a Child With Big Feelings Calm Down.
You say it, they get louder. A flooded child cannot use the thinking part of their brain yet, so reasoning, bargaining and threats all bounce off. You need something to do, not something to say.
It feels as though the explosion comes from nowhere. It does not: the ears go red, the hands close, the breathing changes. Nobody has shown your child, or you, how to catch the signal at level three.
Some children shout. Others have tummy aches, forty what-ifs a day and a one-word answer to every question. A child with three feeling words cannot tell you what a child with twenty can.
You may already own a feelings chart. Without a method, practice at calm times and words for the adult, it becomes wallpaper by Wednesday.
Imagine next Thursday at 5.40. The banana breaks, or the tower falls, or the tablet goes off. You notice the red ears before the noise starts, because you know what to look for now, and you hold up three fingers. As you get down low and say only "I'm here", you feel how different it is to have a plan.
Picture the minutes after. Your child walks to the cushion in the corner, picks the orange card and pushes the wall as hard as they can. You breathe out slowly beside them. When the storm passes, they point to a red face on the chart and then, to your surprise, to a blue one underneath. "Disappointed," they say, trying the word out.
Now it is bedtime. Three questions, the same three every night: sunny, rainy, tomorrow. A worry goes into Gulp's mouth and stays there until morning. You close the door and realise nobody shouted today, including you.
When you open the workbook at the weekend, the dashboard shows what you had half suspected: most storms sit in one hour of the day, and one calm tool is quietly winning. You change one small thing. That is how it goes, a week at a time.
The e-book shows you how. The tools make it happen. Here is exactly what you download.
The guide: methods, worked examples, scripts and exercises
Tumble the feelings creature shows 20 feelings in five colour families: a point-and-find wheel, a 'How do I feel today?' wall chart and 20 cut-out feelings cards for charades, sorting and bingo calling.
24 picture cards in four colours: Breathe, Move, Senses, and Think and connect. Each has one clear picture and three short steps a child can follow, from Balloon Breathing and Wall Push to Count the Colours and Ask for Help.
Four working pages: a 1 to 5 thermometer with a 'what helps me' line at each level, a colour-in body map for body clues, Gulp the worry monster with cut-out worry slips, and a personal calm plan for three chosen cards.
Four finger-tracing posters that turn slow breathing into something a child can see and touch. Each has numbered steps and a version for little ones.
Four bingo boards, a 30-square board game with sharing squares for each feelings family and calm-card star squares, plus a cut-out dice, four tokens, rules and four extra five-minute games.
12 cut-out badges for real effort (I named my feeling, Brave try, Calm-down champ, I said sorry and more) and two certificates: Kindness and Brave Heart.
The wheel, faces chart, all 24 calm cards, the board game and the badges as clean black outlines on white. Uses very little ink, and children can colour Tumble in themselves.
A one-week journal for a child: tick today's feelings, size the biggest one, write or draw the sunny and rainy bits, and note what helped. Type into it on a tablet or print it and use crayons.
A fillable reflection for the grown-up: map your child's triggers and body clues, your own triggers, what you tried, and a one-page plan to take to a teacher or doctor if you need to.
Log each big feeling in under a minute, then let the workbook count by trigger, time of day and feelings family, rank the calm tools that work for your child, and show the trend on a dashboard.
Short, exact words for the build-up, the peak and the recovery, plus scripts for anger, worry, sadness, sibling fights and your own repair. Stick it inside a cupboard door.
How to build a calm corner in a home, a one-room flat, a classroom or a car: what goes in, what stays out, how to introduce it, printing and ink-saver tips, and the mistakes that turn it into a punishment.
A plain checklist of signs that deserve a professional opinion, who to ask first, what to take with you, and a short dated list of child helplines with space for your local numbers.
Twenty-one five-minute daily prompts that introduce the chart, cards, body map, calm corner, games and bedtime check-in in a sensible order. Imports into Google, Outlook or Apple Calendar.
Each chapter opens with a real situation, gives you a method and ends with something to do today, using the tools in your kit.
Why talking fails mid-storm, what is in the kit and how to start tonight with one chart and four cards.
All feelings are welcome, some behaviour is not: how self-control develops and the five feelings families.
Four everyday ways to grow a child's feelings vocabulary with the wheel, chart and cards.
How to spot body signals early and give any feeling a size from one to five.
Why children are calmed by adults long before they can calm themselves, and a ten-second reset for you.
The Safe, Soothe, Say, Solve sequence, how to pick calm cards and how to set up a corner or a calm tin.
Tantrum or meltdown, the storm curve, exact words for each stage and how to find your triggers.
A safe hands plan that gives angry muscles real work, and calm consequences that teach.
Gulp the worry monster, worry time, brave steps and how to sit beside sadness.
What jealousy really is, coaching sibling fights and the four-part apology, adults first.
Bingo, The Feelings Trail, five-minute games and the sunny, rainy, tomorrow check-in.
What progress really looks like and why your own repair is the strongest lesson.
Signs that deserve a professional opinion, who to ask and what to take with you.
Paper, ink-saver tips and the five-minutes-a-day plan.
Every outcome is practised with a worked example and a tool, not just described.
People who measure before and after improve faster and can show it. AssessAll, our sister assessment platform, has AI-graded assessments that pair with this kit. Take one now, work through the kit, then re-take it.
Wanjiru, in Nairobi, told her six-year-old daughter Amara to stop crying about a lost pencil case because "it's only a pencil case". Amara stopped crying. She also stopped telling her mother things for about a week. Wanjiru had not been unkind. She had done what her own mother did, and what most of us do: she tried to make the feeling go away because the feeling was uncomfortable to watch. It is worth saying plainly. The feeling is never the problem. Anger is information that something seems unfair. Fear is information that something seems unsafe. Sadness says something mattered. What causes trouble is what a child does with the feeling: the hitting, the screaming, the door, the silence. Our job is to welcome every feeling and put limits on some behaviour. Those are two different jobs, and mixing them up is where most of us go wrong.
| Free templates and typical advice | This kit | |
|---|---|---|
| Method | A pretty feelings poster with no instructions | A full parent guide: co-regulation, a four-step sequence, scripts and a 21-day plan |
| Calm cards | 8 to 12 clip-art breathing cards | 24 original illustrated cards across breathing, movement, senses and connection, matched to feelings |
| Characters | Generic emoji faces or look-alike cartoons | Tumble, Dot and Gulp: an original, consistent character set showing 20 feelings |
| For the adult | Nothing | Exact scripts, a reflection form and a trigger log that ranks what works |
| Play | One colouring page | Bingo, a board game with dice and tokens, charades cards, badges and certificates |
| Ink | Full colour only | Full colour plus a 10-page ink-saver colour-in set |
| Safety net | No mention | Clear guidance on when to seek professional help, with a dated helpline list |
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Start with the quick-start chapter, then the main spreadsheet or planner. Most buyers use something from the kit the same day.
Whether you print the colour faces chart this evening or let your child colour in the ink-saver set at the weekend, you can start naming feelings together before the next storm. Choose four calm cards, practise them while everyone is calm, and let the toolbox do its quiet work.
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The printables are designed for children aged 4 to 10. Younger children start with the five colour families and four calm cards; older children use the full wheel, the thermometer, the journal and the brave steps ladder. The guide explains how to adjust each tool by age.
Keep everyone safe, get down low, say very little and stay near. Do not reason, threaten or bargain at the peak. When the feeling drops to a medium size, offer two practised calm cards, and save the talking and problem solving for later. Chapter 6 and the What to Say in the Storm sheet give the exact words.
A calm corner is a comfortable spot with a few tools for settling a body: a chart, cards, something to squeeze, something soft. It is an invitation, not a punishment, and an adult usually goes too. The Calm Corner Set-up Guide shows how to build one in a home, a single room, a classroom or a car.
Model it first by naming your own small feelings out loud, guess theirs gently ("You look disappointed. Am I close?"), talk about characters in stories, and make a daily thirty-second point at the faces chart. Games such as Feelings Bingo and charades make the words ordinary.
No. The kit is educational content for families and classrooms based on widely published child-development guidance. It does not diagnose or treat any condition. If you are worried about your child's mood, behaviour, sleep or safety, please talk to your doctor or a qualified child mental health professional. The When to Get Extra Help sheet lists signs to watch.
Yes. The Ink-Saver Colour-In Set includes the wheel, the faces chart, all 24 calm cards, the board game and the badges as black outlines, and children enjoy colouring Tumble in. Everything prints on A4 or, with fit to page, on US Letter.
Yes. The licence covers your own family, or your own class or client group. The guide includes classroom notes, and the games work well in circle time. For whole-school or organisation licences, write to solutions@bodhih.com.
Many adults find it useful to look at their own emotional skills first. The Emotional Intelligence Profile on AssessAll gives a starting picture, and the Early Years and Childcare Practice Judgment and the Family and Elder Caregiving Judgment assessments suit people who care for others at work or at home. They are optional and separate from this kit.
Use the 21-day calendar and pick three small habits to keep. Jobulary's guide to if-then plans is a helpful companion for turning an intention such as "if my shoulders rise, then I breathe out before I speak" into a development plan you will follow.
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