Downsize in later life with a plan, family on side and nothing important lost
Everything you need to decide, sort, share, sell and move to a home that fits the next chapter, whether you are the person moving or the adult child helping.
- A practical e-book that takes you from the first conversation to the first month in the new home
- A 13-sheet Downsizing Workbook: stay-or-move scorecard, budget, room-by-room inventory, heirloom register, furniture fit and dashboard
- Five fillable PDF forms, 38 family conversation scripts, ready-to-send heirloom letters and listing templates
- A 12-week calendar plan, a task board import, 5 pages of colour room and box labels and 28 AI prompts
Downsizing and Later-Life Move Kit · Bodhih Pro Kits · 100 by Bodhih Training, trainers to 2,000+ companies since 2008.
How do you downsize your home in later life?
Decide before you sort: compare staying, adapting and moving on health, money, people, place and feelings. Then agree roles with family, budget the move, choose a future-proof home, sort room by room into six destinations, share heirlooms fairly and run a 12-week plan. The Downsizing and Later-Life Move Kit from Bodhih Training gives you a tool for every step.
Want the full free guide first? Read How to Downsize Your Home in Later Life: A Step-by-Step Plan.
You already feel the problem. Here is what it is costing you.
The conversation keeps going wrong
Every time someone mentions the house, it ends in silence or an argument. The kit gives you words that open the subject gently and keep the person moving in charge.
A lifetime of belongings feels impossible
The loft alone could take a month. The room-by-room method breaks it into calm ninety-minute sessions with six clear destinations and a workbook that shows progress.
Heirlooms could split the family
Two people want the same watch and nobody wants to be the one to ask. A simple process of reserved items, private wish lists, rounds and letters keeps it fair and kind.
The money is fuzzier than it looks
Fees, adaptations, furniture that does not fit and service charges add up. Two budgets, a contingency and a list of questions for your adviser bring it into focus.
Smaller is not the same as suitable
A lovely flat with one lift and two steps at the door can become a trap. The four-zone checklist helps you choose a home that still works on a bad day.
Picture the next few weeks with the kit open beside you.
Imagine a Sunday a few months from now. You open the Dashboard with your mother on the call and see the guest room, kitchen and bathroom marked as sorted, the heirloom list agreed, and moving day eight weeks away. Nobody is arguing. Everybody knows their job.
That calm starts with something small. As you fill in the first page of the Stay-or-Move Reflection, you notice what really matters: perhaps the garden, perhaps being close to grandchildren, perhaps never climbing those stairs again. When you score the options in the workbook, the front runner is built from the mover's own priorities, which makes it easier for the whole family to understand.
Then the work becomes ordinary. You print a Room Sorting Sheet, set out six labelled boxes and spend ninety minutes on one cupboard. You send the wish-list message. You measure the sofa before it gets stuck in the doorway. Each step has a file, and each file has a sample filled in so you can see what good looks like.
Whether you start with the reflection tonight or the family scripts tomorrow, you are working from one plan, at a pace the person moving can live with.
19 files that do the work for you
The e-book shows you how. The tools make it happen. Here is exactly what you download.
Downsizing and Later-Life Move Kit (e-book, PDF)
The guide: methods, worked examples, scripts and exercises
Start here map
The whole downsizing job as eleven steps with the file to open at each, your first hour and a 30/60/90 day use plan.
Downsizing Workbook
Thirteen-sheet workbook: settings, stay-or-move scorecard, budget, room-by-room inventory and progress, heirloom register and gift balance, sale and donation tracker, next home scorer, furniture fit checker, 12-week timeline and a dashboard with chart.
Should I stay or move? Reflection
Three-page fillable reflection: what the mover wants and fears, a five-lens look at the current home, and a summary to bring to the family meeting.
Next home accessibility checklist
Three-page viewing checklist in four zones (getting in, moving around, essential rooms, the area outside), with questions to ask and a summary score. Use one per home, or on your current home.
Room sorting sheet
Two-page sheet for one ninety-minute sorting session: goal, set-up checklist, item log with the six destinations, and what happens next.
Family heirloom conversation
Three-page form: the mover's reserved list, a private wish list for each family member, and a record of decisions and rounds.
Moving day and settling-in plan
Three-page plan: roles and timings for moving day, a room plan and comfort plan, then four goals and practical links for the first month.
Family conversation scripts and messages
38 scripts and ready-to-send messages for opening the subject, reluctance, family meetings, sorting sessions, heirlooms, agents and officials, moving day and settling in.
Heirloom letters and listing templates
8 ready-to-send letters to family, a lawyer and charities, plus 8 sale, donation and buyer-reply templates.
Family agreement on who does what
One-page family agreement for the move (principles, roles, money, communication, review), plus a where-to-find list template and a review log.
Worked example pack: Rosa's move
The main forms and templates completely filled in for one composite case, so you can see what good looks like before you write your own.
AI prompt pack for downsizing
28 tool-agnostic prompts grouped by stage of the move, each with what to paste in and what to check before using the output.
Decision card: keep, gift, sell, donate
If-this-then-that card for the six destinations, quick decision rules and the ten sorting rules.
Helping a parent move: do and avoid
Quick reference for adult children and other helpers: do, avoid, the three kinds of no and when to get help.
Downsizing mistakes to avoid
Mistakes card: twelve common downsizing mistakes, the early sign of each, what to do instead and a Friday self-check.
12-week downsizing plan calendar
58 calendar events across 12 weeks: every plan task with the file to open, weekly sorting sessions and fortnightly family check-ins. Import, then move dates to suit.
Downsizing task board import
44 plan tasks as a CSV ready to import into Trello, Asana, Notion, Planner or Jira, with phase, week, owner and due date.
Room and box labels
5 colour pages to print and cut: room labels for boxes, six-destination sorting labels, special labels (first-night box, fragile, medicines) and door signs for the new home.
Chapter by chapter
Each chapter opens with a real situation, gives you a method and ends with something to do today, using the tools in your kit.
- Format
- PDF e-book + XLSX + fillable PDF + DOCX + printable PDF + ICS + CSV
- Files
- 19 files plus a one-click ZIP
- E-book
- 62 pages
- Works with
- Excel, Google Sheets, Numbers, Word, Google Docs, Acrobat Reader, GoodNotes, Google Calendar, Outlook, Apple Calendar, Trello, Asana, Notion
- Best for
- People planning a later-life move and the family helping them, worldwide
Stay, Adapt or Move: Making the Decision Well
Score staying, adapting and moving through five lenses so the person moving makes a clear, owned decision.
Talking It Through: Family on Side, the Mover in Charge
Open the subject gently, hold one structured family meeting and agree who does what, with the mover in charge.
Money, Timing and the Real Cost of Moving
Budget for the one-off cost of moving and the ongoing cost of the new home, and decide buy-first or sell-first deliberately.
Choosing the Next Home: Future-Proofed, Not Just Smaller
Check every next home in four zones and score each one the same way, for the next fifteen years.
Sorting a Lifetime: The Room-by-Room Method
Sort a lifetime of belongings room by room into six destinations in calm ninety-minute sessions.
Heirlooms, Gifts and Family Fairness
Share heirlooms through reserved items, private wish lists, rounds and kind letters, without confusing gifts with a will.
Photos, Papers and the Records You Must Not Lose
Triage papers, make a where-to-find list instead of a password list, and label photos while memories are fresh.
Selling or Letting, and Fitting the New Home
Sell or let the current home safely and make sure the furniture you keep really fits the new one.
The Move Itself: Twelve Weeks to a Calm Moving Day
Run a twelve-week plan and a moving day where one person's only job is the mover's comfort.
Settling In and Building the New Routine
Plan the first month: familiar touches, practical links, a routine and two new connections.
Not just reading. Tools you will actually open again.
E-book
- Downsizing and Later-Life Move e-book: 10 chapters, worked examples throughout, an appendix on moves involving dementia, frailty or a crisis, and dated country notes for the UK, US, Canada, Australia, India, UAE, Singapore, South Africa, Kenya and Nigeria
Spreadsheet
- Downsizing Workbook (13 sheets): Start here, Settings, Options Scorecard, Budget, Room Inventory, Room Progress, Heirlooms, Gift Balance, Sales and Donations, Next Home Scorer, Furniture Fit, Move Timeline and Dashboard with chart
Fillable PDF forms
- Should I stay or move? Reflection (3 pages)
- Next home accessibility checklist (3 pages)
- Room sorting sheet (2 pages)
- Family heirloom conversation (3 pages)
- Moving day and settling-in plan (3 pages)
Word templates
- Family conversation scripts and messages (38 scripts)
- Heirloom letters and listing templates (8 letters, 8 listing and reply templates)
- Family agreement on who does what, with a where-to-find list template
- Worked example pack: Rosa's move, every main form filled in
- AI prompt pack for downsizing (28 prompts)
Cheat sheets
- Start here map with your first hour and a 30/60/90 day plan
- Decision card: keep, gift, sell, donate, with the sorting rules
- Helping a parent move: do and avoid
- Downsizing mistakes to avoid
Plans and printables
- 12-week downsizing plan calendar (58 events)
- Downsizing task board import CSV (44 tasks)
- Room and box labels (5 colour pages: room labels, sorting labels, special labels and door signs)
When you have worked through it, you will be able to…
Every outcome is practised with a worked example and a tool, not just described.
- Compare staying, adapting and moving with a weighted scorecard built on the mover's priorities
- Open the subject and run a family meeting with words that keep the person moving in charge
- Budget the one-off and ongoing costs of a move and know what to ask your adviser
- Judge any next home for access and future care needs, not just size
- Sort a whole home room by room and see progress by room on a dashboard
- Share heirlooms with a fair, written process and kind letters
- Run a 12-week plan and a calm moving day, then settle in with a first-month plan
Know your starting point. Prove your progress.
People who measure before and after improve faster and can show it. AssessAll, our sister assessment platform, has AI-graded assessments that pair with this kit. Take one now, work through the kit, then re-take it.
A taste of Chapter 3
Most people plan for the price gap between the two homes. You need two budgets: 1. The one-off cost of the move. Selling costs, buying or renting costs, legal and registration fees, taxes on property transfer where they apply, removals, packing materials, cleaning, repairs to the old home, adaptations and furnishing in the new one, storage, and the hidden category: takeaway meals, taxis and a hotel night when everything goes wrong. 2. The ongoing cost of living in the new home. Service or maintenance charges, ground rent where it exists, property taxes, insurance, utilities, care or support fees in managed housing, transport, and any care at home you expect to need. Compare the ongoing cost of the new home with the ongoing cost of the current one, including the repairs you have been postponing. A larger old home often costs more than people admit once you add the roof, the boiler and the gardener.
The honest comparison
| Free templates and typical advice | This kit | |
|---|---|---|
| Starting point | Decluttering tips that start with the boxes | A decision first: stay, adapt or move, scored on five lenses |
| Family | Assumes one person does everything | 38 scripts, a family meeting agenda and a signed who-does-what agreement |
| Heirlooms | Not covered, or 'just talk about it' | Reserved items, private wish lists, rounds, a gift balance view and ready-to-send letters |
| Next home | A smaller home | A four-zone accessibility checklist and a scorer for future-proofing |
| Tools | A blank checklist | 19 files with sample rows, working formulas, a dashboard, labels and a calendar plan |
| Countries | One country's assumptions | Any currency, metric and imperial, and dated notes for ten countries |
Made for you if…
- Adults in their fifties, sixties, seventies and beyond planning a move while they can choose
- Adult children helping a parent decide whether to stay, adapt or move, nearby or from abroad
- Couples who picture different futures and want a fair way to decide together
- Families facing a houseful of belongings and heirlooms and wanting to keep the peace
- Anyone moving into a retirement community, assisted living or a multigenerational home
- Friends, nieces, nephews and neighbours who have become the main helper
Probably not for you if…
- Anyone looking for legal, tax or financial advice: the kit teaches good practice and the questions to ask professionals
- Emergency moves after a hospital discharge, where you need care services first (Appendix A points to help)
- Choosing a care home in depth
Built by trainers, tested in real rooms.
Bodhih Training has designed and delivered corporate programmes since 2008. Bodhih Pro Kits package what works in those workshops into a guide plus the exact tools we use, so you can apply it the same day without a facilitator in the room.
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Start with the quick-start chapter, then the main spreadsheet or planner. Most buyers use something from the kit the same day.
Your home, your decision, one calm plan
Open the Start here map, choose the first step that feels manageable and let the kit carry the rest. Whether you begin with the reflection tonight or the first ninety-minute sort this weekend, you are moving at your own pace with family on side.
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Downsizing and Later-Life Move Kit: FAQs
Read the free guideAlready bought? Resend my linkIs this kit for the person moving or for the family helping?
Both. The e-book speaks to the person who may move and to the adult child, partner or friend who is helping. The scripts include words for each, and every tool assumes the person whose home it is makes the decisions.
How do I talk to my parents about downsizing without upsetting them?
Ask before you advise, pick a calm moment and make it clear they decide. Start with how the home is working for them now rather than with a move. The kit includes opening scripts, a family meeting agenda and responses for the three kinds of no.
Should I stay in my home or move?
It depends on your health, money, support network, daily life and feelings, and on whether your home can be adapted. The Options Scorecard compares stay as you are, stay and adapt, downsize nearby, move near family, retirement living and more on those five lenses, weighted to your priorities.
What is the best way to sort a lifetime of belongings?
Start with the easiest room, work in ninety-minute sessions and send every item to one of six destinations: keep, gift, sell, donate, recycle or store, with an Undecided box that is cleared each time. The Room Inventory and Room Progress sheets show what is done.
How do we divide family heirlooms fairly?
The mover reserves what they are keeping, family send private wish lists, clashes are settled by the mover or by rounds with a rotating order, and every decision is written down. Fair does not always mean equal; the Gift Balance sheet shows the balance the mover intends.
Does it work in my country and currency?
Yes. The workbook works in any currency, the furniture checker shows centimetres and inches, and the method does not depend on local rules. Appendix B has dated notes for the UK, US, Canada, Australia, India, UAE, Singapore, South Africa, Kenya and Nigeria to help you find the right official source.
Is this legal, tax or financial advice?
No. It is educational content and practical planning tools. Nothing in the kit is a will or legal document. Rules on property sales, tax, benefits, gifts and powers of attorney differ by country, so check the official source and speak to a qualified lawyer, financial adviser or tax professional before you sign or sell.
How can I measure my starting point?
If you would like to measure your starting point, the AssessAll assessments Decision-Making Under Uncertainty, Family and Elder Caregiving Judgment, and Negotiation and Value Creation pair well with the kit, especially before the family meeting and before talking to agents.
How do I turn the plan into habits after the move?
Use the Settling-In Plan to set four goals for the first month and write them as if-then plans. If you want to turn it into a development plan of your own, Jobulary has a clear explainer on if-then planning that makes new routines easier to keep.
What if my parent has dementia or the move is urgent?
The kit is built for planned moves, but Appendix A covers what to do when time is short or dementia is involved, and where to turn for care and legal help. For day-to-day care, Bodhih also offers the Dementia Care Day-by-Day Kit and The Elder Care Coordinator.
How much does Downsizing and Later-Life Move Kit cost?
₹999 including 18% GST for buyers in India, or $29 for buyers outside India. One-time payment, no subscription, with an automatic invoice.
How do I get the files after paying?
Instantly. Your download page opens the moment payment succeeds, and a permanent download link is emailed to you. Download each file separately or everything in one ZIP.
What software do I need?
Any of the usual tools: Excel or Google Sheets for spreadsheets, Word or Google Docs for templates, Adobe Acrobat Reader, Preview, Xodo or GoodNotes for the fillable PDFs, and Google, Outlook or Apple Calendar for the calendar plan.
Can I get a refund?
Because it is a digital download, kits are not refundable once downloaded. We always refund a duplicate charge or a failed delivery, and if a file is corrupted and we cannot fix it within 3 working days. Full terms: bodhih.org/refunds.
Can my company buy this for a team?
Yes. Team and company licences, and workshops on this topic run by Bodhih Training, are available. Write to solutions@bodhih.com or call +91 99000 11601.
