Dementia care at home, day by day: a calmer routine and a plan for you
A practical kit for family carers: understand what is happening, shape the day, answer hard moments with calm words, keep the home safe, prepare for doctors and look after yourself.
- A 10-chapter e-book written in plain words, with a method, a worked example and a 'do this today' step in every chapter
- The Dementia Care Diary: 14 sheets including a distress log that charts upsets by time of day, sleep, food and drink, appointments, a record-only medicines list, a home safety walk-through and your own respite tracker
- Fillable forms, a 61-phrase communication book, 32 scripts and messages, a visitor guide, three letters and a family care agreement
- Ten large-print colour pages: a Today Is day board, routine cards, door signs, reassurance notes and a fridge poster
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How do you care for someone with dementia at home day to day?
Give the day a steady shape with four or five anchors, respond to feelings rather than correcting facts, treat changes in behaviour as messages, keep simple records, make the home safer and take regular breaks. The Dementia Care Day-by-Day Kit from Bodhih Training gives family carers the method, the diary and the exact words to do this.
Want the full free guide first? Read How to care for someone with dementia at home, day by day.
You already feel the problem. Here is what it is costing you.
Every evening goes wrong at the same time
Late afternoon arrives and the questions, pacing and tears start. Without a record, the pattern stays invisible and every evening feels like the first.
You correct, they cry, nobody wins
You tell the truth gently and it lands like fresh bad news. You need different words, not more patience.
Appointments drift
Eleven minutes with the doctor and you forget the falls, the nights and the cough. You need evidence on one page.
The family offers 'anything you need' and nothing happens
Vague offers do not cover Thursday afternoons. A written agreement with names and hours does.
You are running on empty
Broken nights, cancelled plans, snapping at someone you love. You need a way to see the warning signs and act before you break.
Picture the next few weeks with the kit open beside you.
Picture a Sunday evening a month from now. You open the Dementia Care Diary, glance at the Patterns sheet and see the late afternoon peak shrinking since you moved the lamps on and the music to 15.30. You know it, because it is on the chart.
As you fill in the week's line on the Respite and Support sheet, notice how the zone has moved from red to amber, because Thursday afternoons are now covered by the person who signed the family care agreement.
When the next appointment comes, you hand the doctor a one-page note with three priorities and the numbers behind them, and you leave the room with decisions written down. And when your mother asks for her own mother at six o'clock, you already know the words that keep her calm.
Whether you start with the diary tonight or with the life story sitting at the weekend, the kit meets you where you are and grows with the care.
19 files that do the work for you
The e-book shows you how. The tools make it happen. Here is exactly what you download.
Dementia Care Day-by-Day Kit (e-book, PDF)
The guide: methods, worked examples, scripts and exercises
Start here map
The whole care job as twelve steps with the file to open at each, your first hour, a 30/60/90 day plan and the ongoing rhythm.
Dementia Care Diary workbook
Fourteen-sheet care diary: settings, care team, daily routine, activity bank, distress log with patterns by time of day, sleep, food and drink, appointments, medicines record (record only), home safety walk-through, carer respite tracker and dashboard.
All About Me: life story and preferences
A four-page life story and preferences profile to fill in with the person, with a page-one summary for nurses, respite workers and new helpers.
Distress episode reflection
A two-page reflection for a severe or repeated episode: what happened, the body, surroundings, task and feelings check, what helped and what to change.
Doctor and hospital visit preparation
Prepare any appointment in 15 minutes: three priorities, evidence from the diary, questions, the decisions made, plus a hospital bag checklist.
Carer wellbeing check
A monthly two-page check on your sleep, health, mood, money, work and relationships, with your red lines and a plan for breaks and support.
Communication phrase book
61 phrases and responses for the hardest everyday moments, sorted by situation, plus the CALM pattern and a communication do and avoid table.
Scripts, messages and letters library
32 scripts and messages for family, the person, doctors, services, work, neighbours and hard moments, plus a ready-to-send visitor guide and three letters.
Daily care plan and handover notes
An editable daily care plan (what they do, what I do, what helps, what to watch for) and a handover notes template for stand-in carers, respite workers and family.
Family care agreement
A one-page household agreement that turns vague offers into specific commitments: roles, time, money, decisions, breaks for the main carer, agreed answers and review dates.
Worked example pack: Leela's first month
The main forms shown completely filled in for one composite family, so you can see what good looks like before you write your own.
AI prompt pack for dementia carers
29 tool-agnostic prompts grouped by step of the care job, each with what to paste in and what to check before you use the output.
Decision card: when behaviour changes
If-this-then-that card: what is urgent, the detective loop, and what to try first for eight common behaviours.
Stages and what helps
Early, middle and late stages on one page: what you may notice, what tends to help, communication, priorities and activity ideas by stage.
Daily care mistakes to avoid
Twelve common mistakes, why they backfire and what to do instead, plus a Friday self-check.
Four-week set-up calendar
57 calendar events: 29 set-up tasks over four weeks, each naming the file to open, plus a ten-minute evening diary reminder every day.
Four-week task board import
29 set-up tasks as a CSV ready to import into Trello, Asana, Notion, Planner or Jira, with week, file to open and due date.
Day board and routine cards
Ten large-print colour pages: a Today Is day board, day, part-of-day and weather cards, 18 routine cards, four door signs, reassurance notes and a 'When things get hard' fridge poster.
Chapter by chapter
Each chapter opens with a real situation, gives you a method and ends with something to do today, using the tools in your kit.
- Format
- PDF e-book + XLSX + fillable PDF + DOCX + printable PDF + ICS + CSV
- Files
- 19 files plus a one-click ZIP
- E-book
- 59 pages
- Works with
- Excel, Google Sheets, LibreOffice, Word, Google Docs, Acrobat Reader, Google Calendar, Outlook, Apple Calendar
- Best for
- Family carers of a person living with dementia at home, anywhere in the world
Dementia in Plain Words
A plain-words picture of dementia types and stages, and the one rule that matters most: sudden change is a medical question.
The Person First
Collect the person's life story in three short sittings and turn it into a page-one summary that protects dignity.
Words That Calm Instead of Correct
The CALM pattern for responding to feelings instead of facts, with exact words for the hardest moments.
A Day With Shape: Routines and Meaningful Activity
Build a day around four or five anchors and score activities on interest and success.
Food, Drink and Personal Care With Dignity
Find the reason behind poor eating and drinking, and a five-step personal care routine that avoids fights.
Sleep, Evenings and Sundowning
Run a two-week evening experiment to find and shrink the late-day peak of distress.
When Behaviour Changes: Reading the Message
Read changes in behaviour as messages with the detective loop, and know when to call the doctor.
A Safer Home, Driving and Money
A room-by-room safety walk-through, plus respectful conversations about driving and money.
Doctors, Medicine Records, Hospitals and Planning Ahead
Prepare any appointment in 15 minutes, keep a record-only medicines list, pack a hospital bag and plan ahead while the person can take part.
Looking After the Carer: Stress, Respite and Support
A weekly fuel check for the carer, respite as part of the plan, and a family agreement that shares the load.
Not just reading. Tools you will actually open again.
E-book
- Dementia Care Day-by-Day e-book: 10 chapters, conclusion, dated country notes and a four-week set-up plan
Spreadsheet
- Dementia Care Diary workbook: 14 sheets including Settings, Care Team, Daily Routine, Activity Bank (40 ideas), Distress Log, Patterns by time band and trigger, Sleep Log, Food and Drink, Appointments, Medicines Record (record only), Home Safety walk-through (40 checks), Respite and Support and a Dashboard with chart
Fillable PDF forms
- All About Me: life story and preferences
- Distress episode reflection
- Doctor and hospital visit preparation
- Carer wellbeing check
Word templates
- Communication phrase book: 61 phrases, the CALM pattern and a do and avoid table
- Scripts, messages and letters library: 32 scripts and messages, a ready-to-send visitor guide and three letters
- Daily care plan and handover notes
- Family care agreement
- Worked example pack: Leela's first month
- AI prompt pack for dementia carers: 29 prompts
Cheat sheets
- Start here map
- Decision card: when behaviour changes
- Stages and what helps (with activity ideas by stage)
- Daily care mistakes to avoid
- Day board and routine cards: 10 large-print colour pages with a day board, day and part-of-day cards, 18 routine cards, 4 door signs, reassurance notes and a fridge poster
Plans
- Four-week set-up calendar (ICS) with 57 events
- Four-week task board import (CSV) with 29 tasks for Trello, Asana, Notion, Planner or Jira
When you have worked through it, you will be able to…
Every outcome is practised with a worked example and a tool, not just described.
- Tell the difference between slow change and a sudden change that needs a doctor today
- Respond to 'I want to go home' and other hard questions with calm words
- Run a steady daily routine with activities that suit the person
- Spot the times and triggers behind distress from your own records
- Walk through the home and fix the highest-priority risks first
- Walk into every appointment with three priorities and the evidence
- Share the care in writing and book regular breaks for yourself
- Start planning ahead while the person can still take part
Know your starting point. Prove your progress.
People who measure before and after improve faster and can show it. AssessAll, our sister assessment platform, has AI-graded assessments that pair with this kit. Take one now, work through the kit, then re-take it.
A taste of Chapter 10
Priya noticed it on a Sunday. She snapped at her mother over a spilled cup of tea, then sat in the bathroom and cried. She had not slept a full night in three weeks, had cancelled two dinners with friends, and had started dreading her own phone. Caring is work. The World Health Organization reports that unpaid carers of people with dementia provide an average of five hours of care and supervision every day, and that women provide 70 percent of care hours. Five hours a day is a part-time job, often on top of a real one. Put plainly: if you break down, the person you care for loses their most important support. Looking after yourself is not a luxury or a betrayal. It is part of the care plan, as much as the medicines record or the safety walk-through.
The honest comparison
| Free templates and typical advice | This kit | |
|---|---|---|
| Method | Generic tips lists | A clear sequence: baseline, person, words, routine, patterns, safety, doctors, planning, carer |
| Records | A blank chart | A 14-sheet diary with formulas, a Patterns sheet and a dashboard chart by time of day |
| Words | 'Be patient' | 61 phrases and 32 scripts for family, doctors, employers and hard moments |
| Medicines | Unclear advice | Record-only list; every decision stays with the doctor and pharmacist |
| Country rules | US-only or none | Dated notes for the UK, US, Canada, Australia, India, Singapore and more |
| The carer | An afterthought | Weekly fuel check, wellbeing form, respite tracker and a family agreement |
Made for you if…
- Adult children caring for a parent with dementia at home
- Spouses and partners who have become the main carer
- Brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews and friends sharing the care
- Carers at a distance who handle admin, money and calls
- People who have just received a diagnosis letter and want a plan
- Paid carers and home helpers who want a simple structure
Probably not for you if…
- Anyone looking for medical, medicine or dosing advice: that belongs to doctors and pharmacists
- Care home managers wanting staff policies or regulatory paperwork
- Clinicians looking for a clinical assessment tool
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Start with the quick-start chapter, then the main spreadsheet or planner. Most buyers use something from the kit the same day.
Start with ten minutes tonight
Open the Dementia Care Diary, type one line about today and notice how much clearer tomorrow looks. Whether you begin with the diary or the life story, every file is ready when you are.
Personal licence for the buyer's own use (and use with your own family members who share the care). Please don't share or resell the files. Team and company licences: solutions@bodhih.com.
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Dementia Care Day-by-Day Kit: FAQs
Read the free guideAlready bought? Resend my linkWhat is in the Dementia Care Day-by-Day Kit?
An e-book plus 18 tools: a 14-sheet care diary workbook, four fillable forms, six Word templates (phrase book, scripts and letters, care plan, family agreement, worked example, AI prompts), four cheat sheets, ten large-print printable pages, a four-week calendar and a task board import.
Is this medical advice?
No. The kit is educational content, not medical, legal or financial advice. It helps you organise daily care and prepare for professionals. For anything clinical, ask the doctor, nurse or pharmacist. For law and money, ask a qualified professional in your country. In an emergency, call your local emergency number.
Does the kit tell me what medicines to give?
No. The Medicines Record only records what a clinician has prescribed, copied from the label. It gives no doses or recommendations. Never start, stop or change a medicine without asking the doctor or pharmacist.
What should I say when someone with dementia wants to go home?
Respond to the feeling rather than the fact: name it, ask about the home they are thinking of, reassure them they are safe with you, then move gently to tea, a walk or a small job. The phrase book has six phrases for this moment alone.
How do I cope with sundowning?
Log a week of evening upsets with times, find your peak on the Patterns sheet, then change two things about 30 minutes before it, such as lamps on, curtains closed, calm music or a simple job. Compare the next week. If nights stay hard, take the logs to the doctor.
Does it work outside the UK and US?
Yes. The method does not depend on any one care system, the workbook works in any currency, and Appendix A has dated notes on helplines, carers' leave, driving and legal authority for several countries, including India, Canada, Australia and Singapore, marked for checking.
How can I measure my starting point as a carer?
Bodhih's partner platform AssessAll offers the Family & Elder Caregiving Judgment assessment, the Emotional Intelligence Profile and the Resilience & Stress Management assessment. Many carers find it useful to see their strengths and stress levels before they set up the routine.
How do I make new routines stick when I am exhausted?
Tie each new habit to a cue you already have: 'When I make the evening tea, I fill in the diary.' Jobulary's guide to if-then plans that make habits stick explains the method, and it pairs well with the kit's ten-minute evening diary reminder.
What software do I need?
Any spreadsheet app (Excel, Google Sheets or LibreOffice), a word processor, a PDF reader that fills forms (such as Acrobat Reader) and any calendar app. The print pages print on A4 or US Letter.
Can I share the files with my family?
Yes, within your own household and the family members helping with this person's care. Please don't share or resell the files beyond that.
How much does Dementia Care Day-by-Day Kit cost?
₹999 including 18% GST for buyers in India, or $29 for buyers outside India. One-time payment, no subscription, with an automatic invoice.
How do I get the files after paying?
Instantly. Your download page opens the moment payment succeeds, and a permanent download link is emailed to you. Download each file separately or everything in one ZIP.
Can I get a refund?
Because it is a digital download, kits are not refundable once downloaded. We always refund a duplicate charge or a failed delivery, and if a file is corrupted and we cannot fix it within 3 working days. Full terms: bodhih.org/refunds.
Can my company buy this for a team?
Yes. Team and company licences, and workshops on this topic run by Bodhih Training, are available. Write to solutions@bodhih.com or call +91 99000 11601.
