Get organised for separation: safety, children, money, home and paperwork in one place
The Separation and Divorce Organiser gives you a calm six-stage method, a working organiser workbook and the exact words for hard conversations, so you can take each step on facts, whichever route you choose.
- A 14-sheet Separation Organiser workbook: disclosure inventory, income, two-household budget, interim split, proposals compare, legal costs, communication log, children's schedule and dashboard
- A library of 42 scripts and messages, including 12 business-like replies, plus 9 ready-to-send letters
- Six fillable forms: safety and support plan, first steps, telling the children, preparing for a lawyer or mediator, proposals and after the decree
- Dated country notes for England and Wales, India, the US, Canada, Australia, the UAE, Singapore and South Africa, and a 12-week calendar plan
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How do I get organised for a separation or divorce?
Put safety first, then copy key documents, protect joint accounts and start a factual record. Next, list every asset, debt, income and pension, build a two-household budget, choose a route from kitchen-table agreement to court, and test proposals on paper. The Separation and Divorce Organiser from Bodhih Training gives you a tool for each step.
Want the full free guide first? Read How to Prepare for Separation or Divorce: A Step-by-Step Checklist.
You already feel the problem. Here is what it is costing you.
Everything at once, and no order
Feelings, children, money, the house, the lawyer, the school, your parents. Without a sequence, everything feels urgent and nothing gets done.
Not knowing the full financial picture
If one person handled the money, the other may not know what accounts, debts or pensions exist. Agreements made without full information are hard to judge and easy to regret.
The cost of every email
Legal fees rise with every unplanned call and angry message. Organised documents, prepared questions and batched emails keep professional time focused.
Children caught in the crossfire
Messages carried between homes, adult conversations overheard, a schedule nobody wrote down. Children need routine and to be kept out of the middle.
Picture the next few weeks with the kit open beside you.
Picture a Sunday evening a few weeks from now. You make a cup of tea, open the Dashboard of your Separation Organiser and see where things stand: which documents are still missing, what your new household will cost, how much of your professional budget you have used, which messages need a reply.
As you work down the list, you notice that the panic has turned into tasks. When your ex-partner sends a long message late at night, you wait until morning and reply in four lines from the business-like templates. When the mediator asks for your figures, you print the Summary sheet. When your daughter asks a hard question at bedtime, you already have the words.
When the big decisions arrive, about the home, the pensions and the children's schedule, you take them on paper, with proposals tested against both budgets and a lender's written answer. Whether you start with the safety plan tonight or the workbook tomorrow, each step adds to a record that helps you and your professionals.
Months from now, you tick the last nomination off the After the Decree checklist, update your budget with real figures and set one small goal for the next three months. The folder goes on a shelf. You kept things organised through one of the hardest stretches of your life.
19 files that do the work for you
The e-book shows you how. The tools make it happen. Here is exactly what you download.
The Separation and Divorce Organiser (e-book, PDF)
The guide: methods, worked examples, scripts and exercises
Start here: separation road map
The whole process on one page: six stages with the file to open for each, your first hour, and a 30/60/90 day plan.
Separation Organiser workbook
Fourteen-sheet workbook: settings, tasks by stage, financial disclosure inventory, income, two-household budget, interim expenses split, proposals compare, summary, legal and professional costs, communication log, children's schedule draft, admin checklist and a dashboard with chart.
Safety and support plan
Three-page fillable plan: danger signs, safe people and places, a go-bag, device security, the numbers to keep on paper, and your support network.
First steps checklist
Four-page fillable checklist for the first fortnight: documents, accounts and credit, living arrangements, children's routine and starting your records.
Telling the children plan
Three-page fillable plan: the agreed words, practical answers, timing, a plan for each child by age, telling the school and follow-up.
Preparing for a lawyer or mediator
Three-page fillable brief to take to every meeting: goals, key facts, documents, ranked questions, costs and next steps.
Proposals worksheet
Three-page fillable worksheet to write, test and compare proposals for the home, money, pensions and support, and record what each person needs.
After the decree checklist
Three-page fillable checklist for after the final order or signed agreement: transfers, wills, nominations, accounts, home, names, government records and digital life.
Script and message library
42 scripts and messages: your partner, the children, family and work, professionals and organisations, plus 12 business-like messages for flashpoints.
Ready-to-send letters
9 letters: financial disclosure cover letter with document schedule, statements and pension valuation requests, joint account and lender letters, and four fresh-start admin letters.
Interim household agreement
A one-page couple agreement for the interim period: living arrangements, who pays what, children, communication and joint accounts, with a review date.
Worked example pack: Nadia and Ben
The main forms filled in for one composite separation, from the safety plan to the after-the-decree checklist, so you can see what good looks like.
AI prompt pack for separation
28 tool-agnostic prompts grouped by stage, each with what to paste in and what to check before you use the output.
Decision card: routes and when to get legal advice now
Page 1: if-this-then-that rules for getting legal or specialist help now. Page 2: the options for resolving issues compared side by side.
Country notes, correct at October 2026
Dated notes on divorce and separation concepts, emergency numbers and helplines for England and Wales, India, the US, Canada, Australia, the UAE, Singapore and South Africa.
Costly separation mistakes
Fifteen common, expensive mistakes in separation, each with what to do instead.
12-week organising plan
30 calendar events over twelve weeks, from the safety plan to proposals and the admin checklist. Move dates to suit you.
Separation task board import
40 tasks by stage, ready to import into Trello, Asana, Notion, Planner or Jira.
Chapter by chapter
Each chapter opens with a real situation, gives you a method and ends with something to do today, using the tools in your kit.
- Format
- PDF e-book + XLSX + fillable PDF + DOCX + ICS + CSV
- Files
- 19 files plus a one-click ZIP
- E-book
- 62 pages
- Works with
- Excel, Google Sheets, LibreOffice, Word, Google Docs, Acrobat Reader, Apple Calendar, Google Calendar, Outlook, Trello, Asana, Notion
- Best for
- Anyone getting organised through separation or divorce, in any country and any family shape
- Currency
- Any: amounts carry no symbol; set your own label
Safety and Support First
A one-page safety and support plan: danger signs, safe people and places, devices, numbers on paper, and emotional first aid.
The First Fortnight: Steady the Ground
What the first fortnight is for: copying documents, protecting accounts and credit, settling where everyone sleeps, and starting a factual record.
Deciding and Telling
Deciding when you are unsure, telling your partner safely, telling children in age-appropriate ways, and telling family, work and school.
The Ways to Resolve It: Kitchen Table to Court
The ladder of options from kitchen-table agreement to court, when joint processes are unsafe, and four questions for choosing a route.
Financial Disclosure: The Full Picture
Building a full inventory of assets, debts, income and pensions, with owner, value, date and document for every line.
Two Households, One Income: Interim and Long-Term Budgets
The interim arrangement, the interim split, the two-household budget, and protecting credit while you work things out.
The Family Home: Options and Trade-offs
Sell, buy out, deferred sale, offset or nesting: testing each option for the home against both budgets and a lender's answer.
Parenting Arrangements Without Putting Children in the Middle
Drafting a two-week schedule from the child's week outwards, handovers, special days and business-like communication between homes.
Working with Professionals and Controlling the Costs
Who does what, preparing for every meeting, controlling legal costs and writing every message as if a judge might read it.
After the Decree: Admin, Protection and Rebuilding
Wills, nominations, accounts, names, insurance and records after the order, keeping your side of the deal, and small routines for rebuilding.
Not just reading. Tools you will actually open again.
The guide
- The Separation and Divorce Organiser e-book: introduction with safety box, ten chapters, conclusion, dated country notes appendix and a plain-language glossary
Start here
- 00-Start-Here-Separation-Road-Map.pdf: the six stages with the file for each, your first hour and a 30/60/90 day plan
Spreadsheet
- Separation-Organiser-Workbook.xlsx: 14 sheets: Start here, Settings, Tasks, Disclosure, Income, Two Households, Interim Split, Proposals Compare, Summary, Legal Costs, Communication Log, Children Schedule, Admin Checklist and Dashboard with chart
Fillable PDF forms
- Safety-and-Support-Plan.pdf
- First-Steps-Checklist.pdf
- Telling-the-Children-Plan.pdf
- Preparing-for-a-Lawyer-or-Mediator.pdf
- Proposals-Worksheet.pdf
- After-the-Decree-Checklist.pdf
Word templates
- Script-and-Message-Library.docx: 42 scripts and messages, including 12 business-like replies
- Ready-to-Send-Letters.docx: 9 letters, including a financial disclosure cover letter and four fresh-start admin letters
- Interim-Household-Agreement.docx: a one-page couple agreement for the interim period
- Worked-Example-Pack-Nadia-and-Ben.docx: the main forms filled in for one composite separation
- AI-Prompt-Pack-for-Separation.docx: 28 prompts by stage
Cheat sheets
- Decision-Card-Routes-and-When-to-Get-Legal-Advice.pdf
- Country-Notes-Correct-at-October-2026.pdf
- Costly-Separation-Mistakes.pdf
Plans and imports
- 12-Week-Organising-Plan.ics: 30 calendar events
- Separation-Task-Board-Import.csv: 40 tasks for Trello, Asana, Notion, Planner or Jira
When you have worked through it, you will be able to…
Every outcome is practised with a worked example and a tool, not just described.
- You will be able to make a practical safety and support plan, and know when joint processes are not safe
- You will be able to copy the right documents and protect joint accounts and credit in the first fortnight
- You will be able to plan how to tell the children, with agreed words and practical answers
- You will be able to build a full financial disclosure inventory with evidence for every line
- You will be able to build a two-household budget and an interim split
- You will be able to compare the routes to resolution and test proposals for the home on paper
- You will be able to prepare for lawyers and mediators and track professional costs against a budget
- You will be able to work through the admin after the final order, from wills to nominations
Know your starting point. Prove your progress.
People who measure before and after improve faster and can show it. AssessAll, our sister assessment platform, has AI-graded assessments that pair with this kit. Take one now, work through the kit, then re-take it.
Conflict Navigation & Resolution
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Take the assessment →AssessAll assessmentMoney Decision Judgment
Take the assessment →JobularyUse the fresh-start effect to reset a goal (Jobulary)
Make it a growth plan →A taste of the Introduction
If you are reading this, something has broken, or is breaking. Perhaps the decision was yours; perhaps it was made for you. Whichever it is, you do not have to sort out your whole life this week. Separation is a long process made of many small, ordinary tasks: find a statement, write down a date, send one email, sleep. This book and the kit that comes with it break the process into those small tasks and put them in a sensible order. The kit is for anyone getting organised through separation or divorce, anywhere in the world: married or unmarried, same-sex or different-sex, with children or without, in a blended or multigenerational household, separating after two years or after thirty. It takes no sides. It assumes nothing about who earns, who cooks, who leaves or who stays.
The honest comparison
| Free templates and typical advice | This kit | |
|---|---|---|
| Method | A list of tips with no order | Six stages with the reason for each step and the file to open |
| Safety | Rarely mentioned | Safety first: a fillable plan, and clear rules on when joint processes are unsafe |
| Money | A blank budget | A 14-sheet workbook with disclosure, two-household budget, interim split, proposals compare and dashboard |
| Words | A few generic emails | 42 scripts and messages and 9 letters for partners, children, family, work and professionals |
| Countries | One country's rules, often undated | Concepts that travel, plus dated notes for eight countries |
| Example | Empty forms | A worked example separation with the main forms filled in |
Made for you if…
- Anyone separating or divorcing who wants a clear, calm plan, married or unmarried, in any country
- Separating and separated parents who want to keep children out of the middle
- People whose partner handled the money and who need to see the full picture
- Couples who want to try a kitchen-table agreement or mediation, where it is safe
- Anyone preparing for a first meeting with a family lawyer or mediator who wants to keep costs down
- A sister, friend or adult child helping someone through a separation
Probably not for you if…
- Anyone looking for legal documents or a do-it-yourself divorce form: this kit contains neither
- People who need emergency help today: call your local emergency number or a domestic abuse helpline first
- Family lawyers and mediators looking for case-management software
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Start with the quick-start chapter, then the main spreadsheet or planner. Most buyers use something from the kit the same day.
One calm step at a time
Open the road map, fill in page 1 of the safety plan and let the method take you one stage at a time. Whether you begin with the first steps checklist tonight or the workbook this weekend, you will have every list, budget and script in one place.
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The Bodhih family, when you are ready for more
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The household budget system.
Hard Talks, Good Outcomes
Scripts for hard conversations.
AssessAll
250+ AI-graded assessments to measure skills and earn verified credentials.
Jobulary
Individual development plans that start from evidence and stay yours.
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The Separation and Divorce Organiser: FAQs
Read the free guideAlready bought? Resend my linkIs this kit legal, financial or therapy advice?
No. It is educational content and organising tools. It does not replace a family lawyer, mediator, financial adviser, tax professional or counsellor, and nothing in it is a legal document. Family law differs by country, state and personal law, so speak to a family lawyer, mediator or legal aid service about your situation.
What should I do first when I separate?
Make sure you are safe and supported, copy key documents you are lawfully entitled to see, protect joint accounts and credit, settle where everyone will sleep for now, and start a factual record. The first steps checklist and the road map's first-hour list cover each one.
What if I am not safe?
Call your local emergency number if you are in danger, and contact a domestic abuse helpline before you tell your partner anything. Abuse includes control over money, phones and movements. Do not use mediation, shared apps or joint meetings unless a specialist service says they are safe.
Does it work outside the UK or US?
Yes. The method teaches concepts that apply everywhere and the workbook works in any currency. Country specifics are kept in dated notes for England and Wales, India, the US, Canada, Australia, the UAE, Singapore and South Africa, with a reminder to check the official source.
Is it only for married couples?
No. It works for married and unmarried couples, civil partners, same-sex and different-sex couples, and blended and multigenerational households. Unmarried couples often have different rights, and the book flags where that matters.
What is financial disclosure in a divorce?
It means each person sharing full information about assets, debts, income and pensions, usually with documents. Many countries require it, and an agreement made without it can be challenged. The workbook's Disclosure sheet records owner, value, date and document status for every line.
Mediation or court: which is better?
It depends on safety, how much you agree, whether you both know the finances and whether anything is urgent. Most issues are settled without a judge deciding, but court is the right route where there is abuse, urgency or no engagement. The decision card compares six routes side by side.
How can I measure my starting point?
Separation draws on conflict, negotiation and money skills. Three AssessAll assessments match them: Conflict Navigation and Resolution; Negotiation Fundamentals: Concessions, Trades and the Walk-Away; and Money Decision Judgment.
Can I turn this into a development plan for life afterwards?
Yes. Jobulary's guide to using the fresh-start effect to reset a goal is a useful next step when you reach the rebuilding stage and want to turn one money goal and one personal goal into a plan.
Can I get a refund?
Digital kits are non-refundable once downloaded. If a file is corrupted and not fixed within 3 working days, you are charged twice, or the files never arrive, contact us and we will put it right.
How much does The Separation and Divorce Organiser cost?
₹1,299 including 18% GST for buyers in India, or $34 for buyers outside India. One-time payment, no subscription, with an automatic invoice.
How do I get the files after paying?
Instantly. Your download page opens the moment payment succeeds, and a permanent download link is emailed to you. Download each file separately or everything in one ZIP.
What software do I need?
Any of the usual tools: Excel or Google Sheets for spreadsheets, Word or Google Docs for templates, Adobe Acrobat Reader, Preview, Xodo or GoodNotes for the fillable PDFs, and Google, Outlook or Apple Calendar for the calendar plan.
Can my company buy this for a team?
Yes. Team and company licences, and workshops on this topic run by Bodhih Training, are available. Write to solutions@bodhih.com or call +91 99000 11601.
