Two homes, one plan for the children, and the tools to run it every week
The Co-Parenting System gives separated parents a written plan, a working schedule, calm handovers, clear money rules and the exact words for hard moments, so the children stay out of the middle.
- A 13-sheet Co-Parenting Hub: eight schedule patterns, a 28-night schedule builder, holiday plan by year, expense ledger with running balance, logs and a dashboard
- 5 fillable forms: parenting plan worksheet with a private safety check, handover note, expense request, plan review and a child's voice sheet in three age versions
- 48 ready-to-edit messages and 6 letters, a parenting plan document, a two-homes guide for children and a new partner introduction plan
- A 10-chapter guide, worked example, cheat sheets, 29 AI prompts, a 90-day calendar and a task board import
The Co-Parenting System · Bodhih Pro Kits · 128 by Bodhih Training, trainers to 2,000+ companies since 2008.
How do you co-parent well after separation?
Keep children out of adult conflict, check it is safe, then put the job in writing: a specific parenting plan, a schedule that suits the child's age, short calm handovers, one message channel, clear money rules and a way to decide and review. The Co-Parenting System from Bodhih Training gives you the guide and tools for each step.
Want the full free guide first? Read How to co-parent after separation: plan, schedule and messages.
You already feel the problem. Here is what it is costing you.
Every week is a new negotiation
Without a written plan, swaps, holidays and school events turn into fresh arguments. The same questions get decided twenty times, often angrily.
The doorstep is a battleground
Handovers carry everything unsaid: money, lateness, new partners. Children feel it and start dreading swap days.
Money mixes with history
Receipts pile up, nobody knows the real balance, and a late payment becomes an argument about everything.
The children are caught in the middle
Messages travel through them, questions about the other home put them in a bind, and they learn to say 'I don't know' to stay safe.
Picture the next few weeks with the kit open beside you.
Picture the next handover. The bag is packed from a checklist, the handover note went last night, and at the door there are two minutes of warm goodbyes and nothing else. As you open the Co-Parenting Hub that evening, the Schedule Builder already shows the next 28 nights, and the handover is logged in seconds.
Imagine the end of the month. Instead of a shoebox of receipts, the Expenses sheet shows one number: who owes whom. You send one message, one transfer happens, and the rows turn green.
Now think about the next hard moment: a swap request that lands badly, a new partner, a festival both families care about. You open the Message and Letter Library, find the words, change them so they sound like you, and send them in the agreed channel at a sensible hour.
Whether you start with the private readiness check tonight or the Patterns sheet tomorrow, each step gives the children a little more calm, and gives you a system that keeps working when feelings run high.
19 files that do the work for you
The e-book shows you how. The tools make it happen. Here is exactly what you download.
The Co-Parenting System (e-book, PDF)
The guide: methods, worked examples, scripts and exercises
Start here map
The whole co-parenting job as twelve steps with the file to open at each, your first hour and a 30/60/90 day use plan.
Co-Parenting Hub workbook
13-sheet master workbook: settings, eight schedule patterns with nights and handover counts, a 28-night schedule builder, holiday and festival plan by year, shared expenses with a running balance, maintenance log, communication and decisions logs, handovers, school and activities calendar, plan review scorecard and a dashboard.
Parenting plan worksheet
Five-page fillable worksheet: a private safety and readiness check, then the twelve areas of a parenting plan with prompts, ready to turn into the Parenting Plan Document.
Handover note
One-page note that travels with (or is sent before) every handover, so nothing has to be said on the doorstep.
Expense request
One-page request for a shared extra over the agreed threshold, with the split worked out and a yes, no or let's talk reply box for the other parent.
Plan review
Two-page review each parent fills in alone, then compares: twelve areas scored, what has changed for each child, what the children have said and the agreed changes.
Child's voice sheet (three age versions)
Three one-page versions to hear children's views without asking them to choose: faces and drawing for ages 4 to 7, sentence starters for 8 to 12 and short questions for teenagers.
Message and letter library for co-parents
48 ready-to-edit messages for swaps, lateness, illness, festivals, travel, school, money, new partners, hard moments and talking with children, plus 6 ready-to-send letters.
Parenting plan document template
The written agreement: twelve sections with sample wording to edit, from living arrangements and schedules to money, new partners, relocation and how you will review and resolve disagreements.
Two homes guide for children
A guide written for children, to fill in together: what's happening in their own words, my two homes, what's the same in both, my calendar, who to talk to and what to say on wobbly days.
New partner introduction plan
A five-stage plan for introducing a new partner slowly: readiness questions, notice to the other parent, first meeting, building familiarity, and overnights or moving in, with words for the children at each stage.
Worked example pack: the Adeyemi-Clarke family
The main forms and the plan shown completely filled in for one composite family, so you can see what good looks like before you write your own.
AI prompt pack for co-parents
29 tool-agnostic prompts grouped by step of the co-parenting job, each with what to paste in and what to check before you use the output.
Schedules by age cheat sheet
What usually matters at each age from babies to older teens, patterns families often consider, what to watch for, and six questions about your own child.
Decision card and parallel parenting rules
If-this-then-that card for eleven common situations (talk, write or get help), signs to go straight to help, and ten parallel parenting rules for high-conflict times.
Co-parenting mistakes to avoid
Fourteen common mistakes, the early sign of each and what to do instead, plus a Friday five-minute self-check.
90-day co-parenting set-up and review calendar
30 calendar events across 90 days, from setting up the Hub to the first plan review, each naming the file to open.
Co-parenting set-up task board import
30 set-up tasks as a CSV ready to import into Trello, Asana, Notion, Planner or Jira, with area and due date.
Chapter by chapter
Each chapter opens with a real situation, gives you a method and ends with something to do today, using the tools in your kit.
- Format
- PDF e-book + XLSX + fillable PDF + DOCX + ICS + CSV
- Files
- 19 files plus a one-click ZIP
- E-book
- 65 pages
- Works with
- Excel, Google Sheets, LibreOffice, Word, Google Docs, Acrobat Reader, GoodNotes, Google Calendar, Outlook, Apple Calendar, Trello, Asana, Notion
- Best for
- Separated and separating parents, and any family sharing children across two homes
Keep the Children Out of the Middle
Why frequent, intense and poorly resolved conflict is what hurts children, and the five roles children must never play.
Safety First, Then Choose Your Style
Tell high conflict from abuse, run a private readiness check and choose a cooperative, business-like, parallel or safety-first style.
Write the Parenting Plan
Write a parenting plan across twelve areas: draft alone, swap, agree the easy parts and trial the hard ones.
Choose a Schedule That Fits Their Age
Choose a schedule by age, distance and school week, and model patterns before you commit.
Holidays, Festivals, Birthdays and Travel
Share festivals, holidays and birthdays by alternate years, splits or fixed days, and plan travel and consent.
Handovers That Stay Calm
Turn handovers into a two-minute routine with a note before and a log after.
One Channel, Business-Like Messages
Use one channel, agreed hours and the four-line message to cool written conflict.
Money Without the Fights
Separate regular maintenance from shared extras, request big costs first and settle once a month.
Decisions and Consistency Across Two Homes
Sort decisions into day-to-day, joint and delegated, climb the decision ladder and agree shared rules.
Children's Voices, New Partners and the Wider Family
Hear children's views without asking them to choose, introduce new partners slowly and involve the wider family.
Not just reading. Tools you will actually open again.
Guide
- The Co-Parenting System e-book: 10 chapters, a dated country notes appendix and a help lines and safety appendix
Start here
- 00-Start-Here-Co-Parenting-Map.pdf: the job in twelve steps, your first hour and a 30/60/90 day plan
Spreadsheet
- Co-Parenting-Hub.xlsx: 13 sheets including settings, schedule patterns, 28-night schedule builder, holiday plan, expenses, maintenance log, communication and decisions logs, handovers, activities, plan review and dashboard
Fillable PDF forms
- Parenting-Plan-Worksheet.pdf: private safety and readiness check plus twelve plan areas
- Handover-Note.pdf: sleep, food, health, school, mood, coming up and the bag checklist
- Expense-Request.pdf: shared extras with split and reply box
- Plan-Review.pdf: scores, children's views and agreed changes
- Childs-Voice-Sheet.pdf: versions for ages 4 to 7, 8 to 12 and teenagers
Word templates
- Message-and-Letter-Library-for-Co-Parents.docx: 48 messages and 6 letters
- Parenting-Plan-Document-Template.docx: the written agreement with sample wording
- Two-Homes-Guide-for-Children.docx: a guide to fill in with your children
- New-Partner-Introduction-Plan.docx: five stages with words for the children
- Worked-Example-Pack-the-Adeyemi-Clarke-Family.docx: the forms and plan completely filled in
- AI-Prompt-Pack-for-Co-Parents.docx: 29 tool-agnostic prompts
Cheat sheets
- Schedules-by-Age-Cheat-Sheet.pdf
- Decision-Card-and-Parallel-Parenting-Rules.pdf
- Co-Parenting-Mistakes-to-Avoid.pdf
Calendar and task board
- 90-Day-Co-Parenting-Plan.ics: 30 events from set-up to the first plan review
- Co-Parenting-Set-Up-Task-Board.csv: 30 tasks for Trello, Asana, Notion, Planner or Jira
When you have worked through it, you will be able to…
Every outcome is practised with a worked example and a tool, not just described.
- You will be able to check privately whether joint co-parenting is safe and choose a style that fits now
- You will be able to write a specific parenting plan across twelve areas, with rules as well as arrangements
- You will be able to compare schedule patterns by nights and handovers and lay out the next 28 nights
- You will be able to share holidays, festivals and birthdays fairly year after year
- You will be able to run short, calm handovers with a note before and a log after
- You will be able to keep shared expenses and maintenance separate, visible and settled monthly
- You will be able to decide who decides, and know when to write, mediate or get legal help
- You will be able to hear your children's views without asking them to choose
Know your starting point. Prove your progress.
People who measure before and after improve faster and can show it. AssessAll, our sister assessment platform, has AI-graded assessments that pair with this kit. Take one now, work through the kit, then re-take it.
Conflict Navigation & Resolution
Take the assessment →AssessAll assessmentEmotional Intelligence Profile
Take the assessment →AssessAll assessmentDisagreement and Negotiation Approach Profile
Take the assessment →JobularyIf-then plans that make habits stick (Jobulary)
Make it a growth plan →A taste of Chapter 1
The quality of the relationship between parents matters for children whether the parents live together or apart. The UK government's Reducing Parental Conflict programme puts it clearly: some arguing is a normal part of life, but conflict that is frequent, intense and poorly resolved can harm children's mental health and long-term life chances. Note the three words. Not "any disagreement". Frequent, intense and poorly resolved. That is hopeful, because you can change all three. Agree more in advance and there is less to argue about. Move disagreements off doorsteps and into short written messages and they cool down. Have a rule for what happens when you disagree and they get resolved. The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child adds two ideas.
The honest comparison
| Free templates and typical advice | This kit | |
|---|---|---|
| Schedule | A blank calendar printable | Eight patterns with nights and handover counts, and a 28-night builder with swaps |
| Plan | A generic one-page template | Twelve-area worksheet, a full plan document with sample wording and a review process |
| Money | A simple expense list | Split rules, approval threshold, running balance, maintenance log and request form |
| Words | General tips about being polite | 48 messages, 6 letters and the four-line message method |
| Safety | Often assumes joint processes are fine | A private readiness check, parallel and safety-first styles, and help lines |
| Countries | One country's assumptions | Any currency, inclusive of all family shapes, dated notes for eight regions |
Made for you if…
- Parents who have just separated and need a plan fast
- Separated parents tired of the same arguments about schedules, money or handovers
- Parents who never lived together and want a clear structure
- Two-mum, two-dad, blended and multigenerational families sharing care across two homes
- Grandparents or relatives sharing care with a parent after a death
- Parents living in different cities or countries
Probably not for you if…
- Anyone looking for legal advice on custody, divorce or property: speak to a family lawyer or legal aid service
- Situations involving abuse where joint arrangements are not safe: start with a domestic abuse service or lawyer (the kit explains why)
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- STEP 3
Open the first tool
Start with the quick-start chapter, then the main spreadsheet or planner. Most buyers use something from the kit the same day.
Give the children two calm homes
Start with the private readiness check and the Settings sheet, then let the system carry the weight. Whether you open the Patterns sheet first or send message 1 tonight, each step moves the adult business out of the children's way.
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What should a parenting plan include?
Living arrangements, the regular schedule, holidays and festivals, handovers, school, health, activities, technology, communication, money, new partners and family, and how you will handle changes and disagreements. The kit's worksheet walks you through all twelve with prompts.
What is the best co-parenting schedule?
There is no single best schedule. It depends on the children's ages, the distance between homes, school and work. Younger children usually do better with shorter gaps; older children need their school week and friends to work. The Hub's Patterns sheet lets you compare options before you choose.
What is parallel parenting and when should we use it?
Parallel parenting is a low-contact style for high-conflict but safe situations: written communication only, handovers at school or a neutral place, a detailed plan and each home running its own way within it. The kit includes a rules card and suggests a review after three months.
How do separated parents split children's expenses fairly?
Agree a split rule (equal, by income, or payer pays for optional extras), an amount above which you agree costs in advance, and one monthly settle-up. Keep regular maintenance separate. The Expenses sheet calculates each share and the running balance.
Is this kit legal advice?
No. It is educational, not legal, financial, tax or therapy advice. Family law, custody and child maintenance differ by country and sometimes by religion-based personal law. Use the dated country notes as pointers and speak to a family lawyer, mediator or legal aid service before you rely on any agreement.
Can I use it if my former partner is abusive?
Your safety comes first. The kit explains the difference between high conflict and abuse and why joint processes such as mediation, shared apps and joint meetings may not be safe. Start with a domestic abuse helpline or lawyer. You can use the tools privately for your own records.
Does it work outside the UK and US?
Yes. Currency is a label you set, examples come from many countries, and Appendix A has dated notes for the UK, US, India, Canada, Australia, the UAE, Singapore, Nigeria, Kenya and South Africa. Check local rules with an official source.
Do both parents need to use the kit?
No. One parent can use it alone to stay organised and calm. If it is safe and you both agree, sharing the Hub and the plan document makes it work even better.
How can I measure my starting point?
If you want to understand how you handle conflict and disagreement before you start, AssessAll offers the Conflict Navigation & Resolution assessment, the Emotional Intelligence Profile and the Disagreement and Negotiation Approach Profile. They are optional and separate from the kit.
How do I turn this into lasting habits?
Small if-then plans help: 'If a message makes me angry, then I wait until morning.' Jobulary's guide to if-then plans explains the method, and the 90-day calendar in the kit gives you the steps to attach them to.
How much does The Co-Parenting System cost?
₹999 including 18% GST for buyers in India, or $29 for buyers outside India. One-time payment, no subscription, with an automatic invoice.
How do I get the files after paying?
Instantly. Your download page opens the moment payment succeeds, and a permanent download link is emailed to you. Download each file separately or everything in one ZIP.
What software do I need?
Any of the usual tools: Excel or Google Sheets for spreadsheets, Word or Google Docs for templates, Adobe Acrobat Reader, Preview, Xodo or GoodNotes for the fillable PDFs, and Google, Outlook or Apple Calendar for the calendar plan.
Can I get a refund?
Because it is a digital download, kits are not refundable once downloaded. We always refund a duplicate charge or a failed delivery, and if a file is corrupted and we cannot fix it within 3 working days. Full terms: bodhih.org/refunds.
Can my company buy this for a team?
Yes. Team and company licences, and workshops on this topic run by Bodhih Training, are available. Write to solutions@bodhih.com or call +91 99000 11601.
